Does Not Compute
|August 31, 2012||Posted by Jess under Comics|
So there’s a meme going around the internets called “The Idiot Nerd Girl,” which is basically predicated on the idea that if a girl says she’s nerdy or that she likes a traditionally geeky thing, it’s totally okay for geek dudes to hostilely quiz her on nerd trivia until she proves her chops. (Side note: it’s not.) In response, Dark Horse editor and general cool lady Rachel Edidin reclaimed the meme. TheMarySue.com has the deets.
Comments quickly descended into whether or not this is gendered and whether or not some girls actually do this and blah blah blah. Here’s my take: the “Fake Geek Girl” doesn’t exist.
Look, I am a geek. And I don’t even like the cool geek stuff; I’d much rather talk about Blue Beetle than Batman (or break down character development in terrible direct-to-DVD Disney movies, or gush over Cole Porter’s wordplay, or lovingly mock the Baby-sitters Club). I like being a geek, though, and I’m pretty upfront about it.
And you know what? I get made fun of for it. Whenever my mom comes over, she makes a crack about my action figure collection and The 40-Year-Old Virgin. Some of my coworkers make snide comments (one of them used to read comics too, but he’s a dude, so it’s okay). My extended family is baffled and prone to tease. And all any of them are getting is the very tip of the geeky iceberg.
Now, most of those people are teasing with love and I know that. (And plenty of people get teased or actively bullied far worse than I do, but that kind of proves my point.) It still hurts. It still makes me feel like a weirdo outsider sometimes. I don’t know what bizarro parallel world these angry geek dudes are living in, but in my world, being a geek is still not cool.
So why on God’s green earth would anyone pretend to be geeky, especially if she’s going to be attacked by both the geeks and the non-geeks?
I’ll tell you who the “Fake Geek Girl” is. She’s a girl who loved The Amazing Spider-Man, got really into learning more about the character, and half-jokingly says, “I love Spider-Man. I’m such a geek!” Because she’s a little embarrassed that someone is going to make fun of her for liking Spider-Man, so she does it to herself first in playful self-defense.
And some dude gets all up in her face about it, all WHAT’S HIS MIDDLE NAME WHAT’S HIS FAVORITE LEGUME I BET YOU DON’T EVEN KNOW WHAT HAPPENED IN PANEL FOUR PAGE TWELVE OF AMAZING SPIDER-MAN #219 SO THERE.
And that girl decides to stick with just liking the movie, because Spider-Man fans are assholes.
(Note to Spider-Man fans: This is just an example. Most Spider-Man fans are not assholes.)
I don’t know what kind of egotism prompts some geek dudes to believe that beautiful women in hipster glasses are invading their Fortress of Solitude to be berated for funsies, but no. They’re not. No one is doing that. Try, just for a moment, to remember that the geeky stuff you like is actually awesome, and that other people might like it! Try, just for a moment, to imagine that women are not the enemy, here to get cooties all up in your mylar packaging.
Try, for a hot second, to share. Because it’s still hard out there for a geek. The last thing we need is to be devouring our own.